The next key is simply to accept that your body is your body and your shape is your shape and there is only so much that you can do to change that.Your overall shape is going to be controlled by your bone structure and genetics as much as is by your diet and exercise.Yes, I realize that you’re sensitive to people noticing your stomach or your nech.

Some people simply have long, skinny frames and will be lean and lanky no matter how much they try to bulk up.

Others are shorter and squatter and will always appear heavier.

Now we could dwell on the fact that these various winners are not gym-sculpted Adonnises themselves, but instead I want to focus on the positive and work on people’s lives instead of trying to stroke the hate-boner.

Besides, the best revenge is living well and there’s nothing quite like seeing the underdog succeed despite all of his or her disadvantages. The cognitive dissonance Now, I’m going to be blunt: dating can suck when you’re fat.

Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.

Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.Take, for example, this image from a feature in the UK periodical The Sun; they flipped the script by posing ordinary men in underwear ads a la David Beckham or Christiano Ronaldo: women prefer large and burly even when society insists that they only like guys who look like they’re 3% body fat.More importantly though, it’s important to remember that attraction is about more than just looks – it’s about personality, presence and what you bring to the table.The problem is that all this does is draw attention to the fact that you’re trying to hide things – and making you look you.Even if you’re big, wearing clothes that fit properly will flatter your profile and make you look more attractive.A low-carb diet might help you lose weight, but it’s not going to change your underlying frame; if you’re naturally compact and dense, then you’re not going to jog that away. I inherited the O’Malley shoulders and I’m naturally barrel-chested; no amount of dieting or jogging is going to make that smaller.